But i wish it were possible. For some reason i attract people with serious issues. And i'm the last person who they should be talking to them because i'm admittedly self absorbed and i'm never interested in anyones problems unless it's so strange i only want to ask questions to satisfy my own curiousity.
I have known 5 people in my life with bi polar disorders, 3 with severe depression and cutting problems. And only one said my presence in ther lives made a difference despite the fact i did nothing but be myself. But for the rest being myself isn't enough, for some reason they thought i'm the person who will listen, ask questions be a comfort, but i'm not. I'm chastisizing, and i won't say what's right to make a person feel better if i think it's stupid.
One kid i know cut himself a LOT and was self destructive, sure for a few weeks i listened...but he just kept going ON and ON about his problems everyday. It got to a point where i stopped caring and yelled at him about something obnoxious he did when he wanted someone to take his side.
ya, call me cruel...but i don't take sides to make people "feel better" if i believe someone is being a ass i don't care if their parents are divorced and they are schizo, i'll tell someone they are an ass if i think they are a ass. If they don't like that...well...i'm not the one who said i'm a warm, nurturer, it's their fault for assuming that. i know i SHOULD help these people, but i'm not a professional so it's not technically my obligation. Get a fucking therapist.
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Maybe just being yourself was helpful anyway. Sometimes people need a little "tough love" or they won't make the effort to help themselves. It's a fine line.